I wish that I had a camera crew following me around capturing every moment of my life. There are so many conversations and moments that I don’t want to fade from my memory. I want to see them over and over again just like they are happening for the very first time. I submit the following as an example of something I want to remember forever. This is an actual conversation that took place between me and Brooklyn, our five year old daughter, at bedtime last night.
Brooklyn: Do you know that everybody has two dads? You’re my dad and God is my dad…God is everybody’s dad.
Me: That’s right sweetheart.
Brooklyn: Will we have old people bodies in heaven?
Me: I don’t know, but when I see you I’m going to say “Hi Brooklyn” and give you a hug.
Brooklyn: When I see you I’m going to run over to you and give you a big hug because I missed you.
Me: Why have you missed me?
Brooklyn: Because you died.
This exchange almost moved me to tears because it was so precious…and profound. My five year old knows that she has a father in heaven. Her views of her father in heaven will be shaped by her views of her earthly father. That is why dads have such a great responsibility to their kids.
Jesus reminded us that if we as sinful people can show love and kindness how much more then can God do?
You parents – if your children ask for a loaf of bread, do you give them a stone instead? Or if they ask for a fish, do you give them a snake? Of course not! So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him. – Matthew 7:9-11 (NLT)
This got me thinking about kids without dads.
The problem with the world is that too many people have a wrong view of God. He is not seen as the creator of all that is good. He is not seen as holy or just. I believe this is because many people have not been raised by a kind, loving parents. Their dads were abusive or absent. That is then the view they hold of God. He is mean or He is not there when I need Him.
I know most of us are doing the best we can but there are many kids who have never had a dad. Find a way to get involved and make an eternal difference in the life of a child. Become a mentor or a foster parent and stand in the gap for a child. They need you.
Holy Bible. New Living Translation copyright© 1996, 2004, 2007 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
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Ryan North is the Co-Founder of One Big Happy Home and creator of The Empowered Parent Podcast. He is a recognized expert on childhood trauma, a TBRI Practitioner, and develops training materials for parents, schools, churches, and child-placing agencies. Ryan is a sought-after speaker known for his engaging and practical approach to communicating complex issues clearly and relatable to a wide range of audiences.