Sometimes I think people are surprised that I donāt encourage them to foster or adopt. The younger me wanted everyone to become a foster parent or adopt. I wanted to shout from the rooftops how big the need was for foster and adoptive parents.Ā But the older and wiser me has a different story to shout. [...]
I have a confession to make. I want to be a perfect mom.Ā I know itās not possible. I know I fall short every day. But still, often that is what I expect from myself, leaving me feeling defeated when things donāt go the way I hoped.Ā When my kids struggle and I donāt know how to [...]
We just got back from a week at Family Camp in Colorado and the first day back from vacation may be the worst. Iād like to go back to the mountains where meals were cooked for me and counselors were always on call to entertain my kids. Where my worries seemed far away and we were [...]
Letās talk about saying yes more often to our kids. I know what youāre thinking ā āI say yes to my kids all the time!āBut do you really? How often do you say no to your kids out of convenience? How often do you say no to your kids because you donāt want to clean [...]
My sweet husband blessed me for Mother's Day with a weekend away from the distraction and crazy of our home. He got me a hotel room for two nights, stocked me with snacks and drinks and held down the fort so I could rest and relax. I have to admit that the first night was [...]
It’s been more than a decade since we said goodbye to him, yet I remember it like it was yesterday. We met in the parking lot of the CPS office. We’d known the day was coming for weeks, yet we didn’t want to believe it. When they placed him in our home they asked if […]
Today is a dreary, rainy day. Iād like to be curled up by a nice fire, reading a book and cuddling with my family.Ā The reality is Iāve been sitting at my desk most of the day gathering resources for families in crisis.Ā Praying for families who are going through HARD stuff.Ā Praying for kids who have been [...]
Lack of predictability can be scary for people with trauma. It can make transitions of any kind a challenge, whether you are transitioning from playing in the park to going home for dinner or transitioning from summertime back to school. Fortunately, there are ways to help our kids better manage those transitions. Everything starts with [...]
One of the things I struggled to understand when we first became parents was felt-safety. I understood that negative behaviors could be driven by fear, which made perfect logical sense, it still does.Ā But how can someone who is safe have those same negative behaviors just because they donāt feel safe?Ā I didnāt understand felt-safety because I [...]
Itās the start of a new year so we thought weād go back and start at the very beginning, it is after all a very good place to start.I remember when we first learned about trauma and its impacts, and how that new knowledge impacted me. Learning about trauma changed me in two very important [...]