One of the most helpful things ever shared with me is the idea that we spend as much time managing perceptions as we do dealing with reality. That rings true in almost every avenue of life and perhaps none more so than with our kids, especially as it relates to their self-worth and self-image. Some [...]
Category: Foster
10 Ways to Support Kids in Foster Care
Ask any foster parent the phrase they hear the most and it will likely be āI could never do what you doā or āIād love to foster, but I could never give the kids back.ā Ā While it is true that not everyone is equipped to be a foster parent there are so many other ways [...]
You’ve Got Perceptions, I’ve Got Reality
One of the most helpful things ever shared with me is the idea that we spend as much time managing perceptions as we do dealing with reality. That rings true in almost every avenue of life and perhaps none more so than with our kids, especially as it relates to their self-worth and self-image. Some [...]
We Don’t Need More Rules, We Need Better People
We live in a world with too many rules, and I donāt think that many people would disagree with me. We are reminded daily that someone (person or entity) has taken it upon themselves to determine what is best for the rest of us. I guess thatās OK if you like being micromanaged, but I [...]
Labels Are For Things Not People
We all like to label things. If it doesn't have a label, then it doesn't make any sense to us. We even have label makers so that we can label our things. Apparently the names they were assigned by their makers donāt really work for us. We have to give them names that fit our [...]
Band-Aids Heal More Than You Can See
Giving and receiving love may seem like an easy thing, but for many adopted and foster kids this is hard. They have given love to people only to have those people disappear from their life or not return their love. They have received love only to be moved to a new home, or the "love" [...]
People Mean Well…No, Really They Do
I know people mean well, but good intentions are not necessarily an indicator of right actions. We've been asked some questions over the years that either leave us smiling or scratching our heads. These questions could be considered misguided or uninformed, perhaps the thoughts of people who donāt know any better, but when strangers ask [...]
Great and Other Expectations [Re-post]
One of the greatest sources of conflict for any of us is unmet expectations. So many of the low moments in my life are when people didn't behave the way I thought they should or hoped they would. At the same time there are an equal amount (if not more) of moments where others are [...]
Fostering Hope. Fostering Connections
We are looking forward to speaking at this Saturday's Tapestry event. We will share some of our experiences as foster parents and some of the lessons we've learned along the way. Here is some more information taken from the Tapestry website. Ā Join us onĀ Saturday, February 1, from 6:30 to 8:30 pm, in Room West [...]
What’s the Impact?
Someone told me recently that she and her husband want to foster when their biological kids are older. She told me they have a heart for foster kids and a background in counseling, so they think fostering would be a great ministry. But they don't want foster kids to negatively affect their children. This is [...]